Sometimes everyone just needs a break. Being burnt out is a point so easy to get to, and if you fight it out you might burn yourself out forever on things that you once enjoyed. I know that what I really burn myself out on is people, and that if you go too long burning yourself out on particular people you'll never really enjoy them again. At first, I start by feeling like I can't handle people at all and I turn into a complete recluse. I have no desire to converse with other people, or even be around them. My behaviors become erratic, my social skills deteriorate, and I begin to stop taking care of myself as well as I normally pride myself on doing. As a social being, I can't say that I like to wallow in the realm of the recluse, soon I begin to miss the world as it was before and the interaction that I love. I can't begin to pretend that I'm over my disinterest in people but at the same time I want to badly to be back in my social sphere. Unfortunately, if I press myself too far before I'm really ready it has the effect of just being a disappointment and I'm still as burnt out if not more as before I tried. Not only that, but the relationships that I try to renew myself with during that time take a hit that might not be recoverable from.
On one hand, it's very important to just take some time away from everything and really refresh yourself before you start trying again. But just going away and taking a time-out has the potential to be even more harmful than just pushing ahead. I don't like band-aid solutions, and just stepping outside seems to be a band-aid solution if it's the only solution. Instead, I like to think of it as just taking a little break to think outside of the box. It's important to think about why you end up so burnt out. For me, being burnt out is just how I feel after experiencing a really long working period. I know that if I'm working too much on something and just not understanding then I tend to be burnt out really fast. For me, I need to just find a new way to look at things to help me understand. If I just take a break and then come back and keep pushing in the same direction without any results still, it hurts me more than not taking that break.
The importance of stepping outside of yourself is so amazing in so many ways; it's the only real way to grow personally, morally, intellectually, and physically. As people when we're repetitive with anything too much we find not only diminishing marginal gain from something as well as that our bodies and minds begin to deteriorate from them. In order to continue to maximize our gain, we need to step away and find a new way to pursue.
The biggest and most difficult challenge in all this is just figuring out how you're going to step out of the box, and it's so imperative to be honest enough with yourself to know whether or not you're capable of giving yourself that other perspective. If you can't, look for someone else that thinks in a way that's different from yours, not parallel. You already know your way and it isn't working, but if you're ready to try someone else's, even if it feels awkward or stupid, I think you'll be in the right direction. And keep in mind that failure is just your way of weeding out the answers.
Love, Polly.
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